Punishment and Destruction in Light of the Character and Power of God

This is part 2 of the Divine Pattern of the Character and Power of God. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-3JvNr6TJo

How do we understand the violence of the Old testament and match this against a God of Love? Does God use force, fear and manipulation to help us get the point? Is the loving gift of His Son simply plan A and if you don't comply you get Plan B which is the threat of being burned alive in Hell?

These are critical questions that need answers.
In the light of the gift of Christ and the life we receive from Him, many of these questions are answered and leave the heart free of the fear of punishment and a desire to serve God from the motive of love. Only by love is love awakened. Force only gives birth to fear and slavery.